'They are a gift...to ensure your friendship.' Genesis 33:8 NLT
When someone hurts us, we usually want an apology. And when that 'sorry' doesn't come, we may hold it against that person. But if we want to move forward, we have to accept that an apology may never come in the manner we'd like.
After Jacob cheated his brother Esau out of his birthright, things got so bad between them that Jacob moved away. Later in life, Jacob returned to make things right with his brother, by offering some of his animals. At first Esau refused his brother's gifts, but when Jacob persisted, 'Esau finally accepted the gift' (Genesis 33:11 NLT). Jacob never actually said, 'I'm sorry, please forgive me.' He made amends through giving Esau a gift. And Esau showed real maturity by valuing his relationship with his brother over taking revenge.
God wants us to exercise spiritual maturity too. We can't control what others do; we can only control our response. If we insist that someone says 'sorry' in a certain way, the relationship may never be healed. And we'll be left holding a grudge. And holding a grudge is like holding a hot coal; it keeps burning until we release it. The Bible says: 'Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ' (Ephesians 4:32 NIV). When someone apologises in a different way, we need to show maturity by accepting it, forgiving and moving on.
So what now? Is there something you need to forgive yourself for? Why not buy yourself a sweet treat as an apology to yourself.
Soulfood: Joel 1-3 Matt 7:15-29 Ps 79 Pro 15:18-21,