Be the peacemaker

'For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder.' James 3:16 NIV

Paul wrote: 'Live in harmony by showing love for each other. Be united in what you think, as if you were only one person. Don't be jealous or proud, but be humble and consider others more important than yourselves. Care about them as much as you care about yourselves' (Philippians 2:2-4 CEV). Negative conflict causes problems. When we think too much of ourselves, our relationships become full of comparing, competing and condemning.

When disorder comes, we need to counteract it with love, humility and selflessness. The Bible says: 'Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many' (Hebrews 12:15 NLT). We need to aim to live in harmony. When God prompts us to 'turn the other cheek', or be the first to apologise or put someone else's needs above our own, he gives the grace and wisdom to do it. 'The wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and...good deeds. It shows no favouritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness' (James 3:17-18 NLT).

Conflict that's rooted in selfishness and jealousy needs to be avoided. Instead, we need to be peacemakers.

So what now? Experiencing conflict in a relationship? Pray that you'd be the peacemaker in the situation.

Soulfood: Eph 4:17-6:24 Lk 6:27-36 Ps 79 Pro 17:24-26,

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